The Languages of Love...What???!!!!

There's a lot in life I haven't figured out yet. I will never act as an expert on dating or men (not that it matters anymore)... but I have seen enough of the world to realize how incredibly amazing Todd is. Today I am especially grateful for him and the blessing he has been in my life. On Sunday we went to the marriage/family relations class. We had to share the characteristics that we love most about our spouses. I wanted to share a few of the ones I said about Todd.

Righteous- Todd knows so much about the Gospel. He wakes up early every morning to study his scriptures. Anytime I have questions or don't understand something he explains it.
Patient- He is incredibly patient with not only me but with people in general.
Calm- His ability to remain calm in any situation. I have never seen him lose his temper since the day I met him. I am not so good at that. I act on emotion sometimes and stress out so its nice having todd always there to balance it out.
Trusting- He trusts my judgement on anything. One thing particular, the finances. He knows I have lived the same type of lifestyle as him and trusts me on where or how to spend our money. His only worry is whether or not I will lose his debit card due to my lack of organization :)
Motivated- He is so motivated and driven with his career. Its so wonderful because I know he will always try his hardest to take care of our family.

My mom has been sending me books since the day I left for college. I'm sure I needed them, seeing as earlier I said i stress out easily and way too much. But one time she sent me a book called the 5 Languages of Love. Haha!! When Todd and I started dating we slowly realized we spoke different love languages. The way I showed my love to todd didn't even register to him as love. And visa versa. The final thing I love most about him is his willingness to speak my love language even if it doesn't register as an act of love in his mind :)

The 5 Languages of Love

• Words of Affirmation

  Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Quality Time

  In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Receiving Gifts

  Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

• Acts of Service

  Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Physical Touch

  This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.